Hopefully there will be some more helpful answers other than RTFM! I don't have the height problem with mine but recall other posts here about it. Check this link for one way to do it.Yes, No, Don’t Know. Funny thing about Honda, they like to change features in different years of their vehicles. Go here and download the owners manual and it will answer your question(s).
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Well considering that the OP only listed a Pilot Ex-l, NO YEAR, about the only real answer is to RTFM. Because only the OP knows what FM they need to read. Thats why I posed THIS a while back. Suggestions for Posting Questions.
Then a follow up question of "what year" to the somewhat new Pilot member could have been helpful also. RTFM is not a helpful reply in many circumstances when a new or potentially new owner asks a question IMHO. Sounds like they don't even have the vehicle yet.
According to this person's previous posts, it appears that he's looking for a new one.