First, we are a Honda family and the Pilot is our 10th Honda. With the ratings in Consumer Report, I did have to look at the Highlander. I know the noise level in Toyotas is usually lower than in Hondas as I compared between Accords and Camrys. The same is probably true in the Highlander-Pilot comparison but, it isn't that critical. I never did test drive a Highlander but, have ridden in the Lexus RX300. Nice but, it didn't do that much more than an Accord wagon we traded in for our Pilot. Our decision was based on the versatility of being able to carry 8 people and carrying a large amount of cargo. 4 days after picking up the Pilot, I drove my son and 6 of his friends out to the mall. This week, I brought home about 600 pounds of cabinets for the garage. Couldn't have done both with a Highlander. Used to have a family friend that is a Honda mechanic but, he retired. That is what I really miss!
Good Luck,
Henry, currently with a 2002 Civic EX, 1998 Accord EX V6 & 1988 Accord LX too. :4: