Sorry to hear that your experience has been that bad. It's never good to hear someone feel that bad about a major purchase. What gas tank issues have you had? I haven't heard of any real issues other than the old "thud" sound, but haven't heard about any failures. As far as road noise is concerned, is this something that has increased over time? If road noise was unacceptable from the beginning, I would expect that you would have picked up on this during a test drive. Also, recalls are recalls. They are unfortunate, but they happen. As I've mentioned before, at least we get a recall. My last vehicle was pretty famous for transmission problems, but we never got a recall out of it.
I'm not here to dismiss your issues as invalid, but I do think it's important to put them in perspective. As others have mentioned before, if you want to see some real problems, go look at some of the Ford, Chrysler, and GM forums. I don't blindly bow to Honda. In fact, this is my first Honda vehicle and only my second non-US vehicle. But then again, maybe that's why I think that the quality is so high.
Chris